They broke up instead. No matter how great she was, or how much she supported him, he never got on the same page as her.
If someone that you’re interested in tells you up front that they’re not in the same place that you are, take their word for it. If you can accept that, great! Have a blast.
But, if you’re like my friend who was looking for more, then do not fall in love with that person. It’s better to let them go so you can be with someone who wants exactly what you want.
4. You’re not able to be yourself, warts and all.
Have you ever felt like you had to twist yourself into a pretzel to be in a relationship with someone? Or that you had to break up, or apart, with yourself?
If you’re trying too hard to impress someone, or you don’t feel like you can authentically be yourself with them, then do not fall in love with them.
You are enough just the way you are. If you’ve been with people in the past who’ve said you’re too much of something, or not enough of something else, then they’re not your soulmate or your “One”.
Your perfect partner can’t see past you. Any imperfections that you might think will make someone you’re interested in the run for the hills, will be adorable to your soulmate.
So do not fall in love with anyone who doesn’t know that you are fabulous — exactly as you are!
5. You’re not really ready for everything a committed relationship involves.
After talking for almost an hour about her ideal partner, I asked my friend Rachel if she was really ready for him to show up. She took a deep breath, and said, “No.”
She couldn’t believe it. We had just spent all this time creating her perfect mate, and yet, when I asked her if she really wanted it, she realized that she was still enjoying being single, and wasn’t ready for a new relationship.
If you’re enjoying your freedom and independence, then you definitely shouldn’t fall in love.
How much time do most people spend enjoying their singlehood? Older generations put such a stigma on being single after a certain age. In some cases, a woman was considered a spinster if she wasn’t married by 25!
Luckily today, our life expectancy is much longer and more and more people are waiting to “settle down” until they’re in their 30s and 40s.
Own that no matter what, it’s your choice.
Have fun and allow the right person to show up when the time is right!
Written by Kelly Ann Garnett
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
Republished with permission from the author
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