Wendy shirked it off and replied, “Take a cold shower.”
He phoned her at bedtime and he asked her, “What are you wearing,” knowing that the answer was a “nightie” or “nothing.” And then he texted “I get hard thinking about u.” “I hope u get *** when u think of me,” and finally, “I want 2 feel myself ****** u.”
Wendy asked herself, how would Jesus reply to a Bible sexting snake?
Wendy was shocked and uncertain of how to respond to him. He made it sound like he was kinda-sorta joking. She wondered … should she be a sport and text-flirt back with him? But her core felt oddly violated by his lewd assertions. She texted him back, telling him she was uncomfortable talking like that. He apologized and he withdrew in the following days.
Kevin resumed his pursuit. He took Wendy to a romantic dinner and afterward they went back to her place. Kevin sat in the big club chair in Wendy’s living room and he motioned for her to sit on his lap. She sat sideways on his lap, leaning sideways on his chest with her legs dangling off the side of his thigh. He put his arm around her waist and he quizzed her about her relationship failures. He told her what it took to have a healthy relationship. He said he wasn’t ready to have sex with her and then he began kissing her and rubbing his hands all around her body. Thirty minutes later they were in Wendy’s bed making love.
For weeks Kevin texted Wendy every morning at eight o’clock, saying, “Good morning precious, have a blessed day.” After their conjugal evening, he didn’t call or text her for two days. The third day he texted, “Good morning, have a nice day.”
What the crap happened to “Precious”?
Wendy sensed that Kevin had pulled back—and so she didn’t reply to his text. The next day his text accusations began:
Kevin: Haven’t heard from u. I don’t play games.
Wendy: You haven’t called me. Ur playing games now.
Kevin: Ur a hypocrite. You asked me to lay w you n bed.
Wendy: Ur sex texting was a precursor to everything that happened.
Kevin: Ur not who I thought you were.
Wendy: You teach a church dating class! U need 2 rethinks ur Christian walk!!
Kevin: You need to complete ur personal work! Don’t call me again!
Wendy: Don’t worry—I don’t call sex predators!!
Wendy’s last text didn’t get through to Kevin because in a matter of seconds he had blocked her cell phone. I mean, how many people know how to instantly block phone numbers? Wendy knew this was not the first time he had impulsively blocked a woman’s call.
Kevin was a sanctimonious fraud. He presented himself as a devout Christian looking for a virtuous woman and yet, he seduced women with his obscene, pornographic text messages. He knew in order to penetrate a woman’s chastity, he would have to chip away at her moral resistance. He used sexting to plant the seed in a woman’s mind that said, I want you and wouldn’t it feel good to have sex to together but when a woman submitted to his lascivious overtures he condemned her as the tramp, thus cleansing his self-righteous conscious of any wrongdoing. In other words, it was okay for him to seduce, but it was NOT okay for a woman to succumb.