5 Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart

PostBreakup Lies Keep STUCK With Broken Heart

This isn’t worth holding onto because it can set you up to only pursue “perfect” relationships in the future when, in reality, there’s no such thing.

Realize that if the relationship ended, it had to end. If one person is miserable enough in the relationship to end it, they’re doing both parties a favor in the long-run.

Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart
Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart

4. This is the worst thing that’s ever happened to me.

Another belief people harbor is that they’ve never experienced anything so awful before. And this is understandable: breakups hurt!

But what if the pain that you’re feeling and the helplessness and hopelessness are tools in disguise? What if these are the tools that you can use to begin to carve out a greater capacity for your own self-love, for your own authenticity and for your own growth?

What is the “worst thing that’s ever happened” to you someday turns into the “best thing that’s ever happened” to you?

This simple re-frame may unlock a sense of compassion for yourself, greater curiosity about life itself, and a deeper available expression of appreciation for your partner as a catalyst for growth.

Related: 10 Ways To Go Through A Breakup Without Feeling Miserable

5. There’s no point in ever loving again.

The final belief that many of those learning how to get over someone are about the futility of romance: There’s no point to ever dating again; may as well get a cat.

However, this could be the moment in your life where everything begins to change for the better! The moment in your life where you have a chance to find yourself again.

This breakup may be the mirror that is finally revealing the part of you that needs to grow, to fully believe in yourself and feel solid on your own.

The truth is, if you want to love, you must continually risk over and over again. With time, you’ll realize that the pain is not something to be avoided, but rather a reminder that you’re alive and have the capacity to feel deeply.

After every storm is a rainbow, if you’re willing to stay with it and trust in it’s passing.

The resilience, the power, the love that you’ll gain access to through using this time as a self-development journey will pay dividends in all your future love endeavors.

Related: The 5 Stages of Moving On

You might be able to do this on your own, but many people find help with a life coach or professional.

If you’re in need of help getting over your heartbreak, sign up at ClaytonOlsonCoaching.com and send Clayton a message.

Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops. Register for his free webinar that reveals the 3 Keys to Attracting and Keeping a High-Quality Man or grab his free guide 8 Secrets To Create A Rock Solid Relationship.


Written by Clayton Olson
Originally appeared on ClaytonOlsonCoaching.com
5 Post-Breakup Lies You Tell Yourself That Keep You Stuck Forever With A Broken Heart
5 Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart
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Clayton Olson

Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Author, and Facilitator. He delivers private virtual coaching sessions and leads online group workshops internationally (USA, UK, Asia, Australia) for both women and men. Clayton has been empowering individuals and couples from around the world to find harmony and authenticity in their relationships. With a background in Professional Coaching and Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Clayton takes a holistic approach to carefully reconstructing what is truly possible for his clients. Through his work he has revitalized relationships, brought together lost loves, and witnessed clients find their soul mates. Clayton's content has been seen on Fox news magazine, Huffington post, the Goodmen project and he's even had an article featured on The View.View Author posts