4 Ways That Childhood Trauma Impacts Adults


4.  Passivity

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If you were neglected as a child, or abandoned by your caretakers, you may have buried your anger and fear in the hope that it would mean no one will ever abandon or neglect you again. What happens when children do this, though, is that we end up abandoning ourselves. We hold ourselves back when we don’t feel our feelings. We end up passive, and we don’t live up to our potential. The passive person says to him or herself, “I know what I need to do but I don’t do it.”

When we bury our feelings, we bury who we are. Because of childhood emotional trauma, we may have learned to hide parts of ourselves. At the time, that may have helped us. But as adults, we need our feelings to tell us who we are and what we want, and to guide us toward becoming the people we want to be.

By Andrea Brandt, Ph.D

To learn more about how childhood wounds affect us as adults, please visit my website and follow me on Facebook or Twitter

Originally appeared on Psychology Today

Published here with permission from the author

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4 Ways That Childhood Trauma Impacts Adults

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Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.https://abrandtherapy.com/
Andrea Brandt, Ph.D., is a marriage and family therapist located in Santa Monica California. Andrea brings over 35 years of clinical experience to the role of individual family therapist, couples counseling, group therapy, and anger management classes. Brandt is a recognized expert in treating a full range of emotional issues, including anger and aggression; anxiety and depression; aging; relationships; work-life balance; and workplace and women's issues.
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