4 Big Mistakes I Made As A Wife That Led To Divorce

Big Mistakes Made Wife Led Divorce

Instead of building up his ego, I trampled all over it. I belittled him often, saying his job was unimportant and dismissing his friends as “hangers-on.” I berated him for doing things wrong when, in all honesty, he just wasn’t doing them my way. At times I spoke to him like a child. I controlled the family finances and grilled him over every single penny he spent.

And in the bedroom—yup, you guessed it—he was doing that all wrong too, and I wasn’t shy about telling him so. As our marriage crumbled, I found myself constantly looking for faults and mistakes so that I could justify my superiority. By the end, I had zero respect for him and I made sure he knew it and felt it every day.

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4. I didn’t bother to learn to fight the right way. 

I know it sounds odd to suggest there is a right way to fight. But there is. I tended to keep the peace in our house by keeping my mouth shut when things were really bothering me. As you can imagine, all the small things that drove me crazy grew into a giant suppressed ball of anger that would erupt occasionally in a huge, really frightening fit of Hulk-like rage.

And by rage, I mean rage in the clinical, mental-health definition kind of way. After the fact, I’d justify my anger by saying that a woman can only take so much. Looking back, I was one scary b*tch during those episodes.

I write this mea culpa, not with the hopes of winning my ex back or even wanting his forgiveness. I write this because I can’t believe how long I kept my head buried in the sand. I hope other women out there will yank theirs out and take a good look around.

And while I’m still hurt that my husband chose to solve our problems in another woman’s bed when some conversation and counseling might have helped, I absolutely know that my behavior was part of what pushed him there.

Written by Sloane Bradshaw
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
4 Big Mistakes I Made As A Wife That Led To Divorce
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4 Big Mistakes I Made As A Wife That Led To Divorce

1 thought on “4 Big Mistakes I Made As A Wife That Led To Divorce”

  1. Avatar of Sandra

    I love how you acknowledged your faults. It doesn’t justify his behavior but in reality, it would make most look for somewhere else for comfort. I’m a woman in a relationship and had to work on myself with these same issues. It’s hard to look at our own faults most of the time but when you do, it’s easier to work problems out with a better outcome. Thanks for the article, hopefully more women and even men, will read this and also do some self inventory.

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