You’ve likely come to realize the narcissistic abuser isn’t interested in trying to heal themselves or fix the relationship. Maybe you’ve even let it seep into your consciousness, but your denial is trying to exorcize this awareness of truth back out.
Are you able to see that this person is not interested in a collaborative solution and doesn’t truly believe that both parties are equal and can each have their needs met?
Maybe you don’t feel like you’re worthy of equality. Maybe, after years of being torn down and propped back up momentarily, only to be torn down again, you actually believe you are inferior and can’t expect to have an outcome that includes both parties getting their needs met.
You undoubtedly know what you need to do if you’ve read up to this point.
I hope by now you are convinced that this is a situation you cannot fix and that you must stop holding onto that illusion. You need to accept the horror and the futility of the situation, you really do.
What do you think will happen if you don’t?
Accept the situation as it is rather than fighting to change it and acknowledge the damage that has been done.
Then you can begin the healing process.
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Written by Joanne Brothwell
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
Printed with permission from the author
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