30 Ways In Which Narcissistic Parenting Affects A Child

In Which Narcissistic Parenting Affects A Child

It is often missed by professionals, because narcissists can be charming in their presentation, displaying an image of how they wish to be seen. Behind closed doors, the children feel the suffocation of self and struggle with loneliness and pain. The narcissist is not accountable for their own mistakes or behavior, so the child believes they are to blame and that they flunked childhood.

Having worked as a mental health provider with thousands of children, as well as the adult children of narcissistic parents, I see the above symptoms again and again. The lifestyles differ, and the stories differ, but they all wave the same emotional banners. It’s quite a list. It takes serious recovery work to get better and feel better.

Related: The Narcissistic Family Tree: 12 Common Dynamics of a Dysfunctional Family

If you are the other parent, or part of the extended family, and are trying to ward off the effects of a narcissistic parent, you will have double duty as the responsible one.

The best approach is to parent with empathy — the antithesis of narcissism. If you are a divorce professional working with a case that involves a narcissist, help the kids by first really understanding the dynamics of this disorder. Don’t minimize it. Make sure the children are in therapy and are learning assertiveness skills to use with a parent who does not emotionally tune into them. Put the kids first.

Note: Narcissism is a spectrum disorder, so think of it as a continuum ranging from low-level traits that we all have to some degree to a full-blown personality disorder. The higher the level of traits, the more damage gets done to children.


Written by Karyl McBride
Originally appeared on PsychologyToday.com

Narcissistic parenting can do a lot of damage to a child’s psychological and mental wellbeing. Children always look towards parents for guidance, support, and love, and when parents treat their children in an insensitive manner, and make them feel unloved, it seriously messes with their mind.

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  1. Avatar of Tessa VanVuuren

    31. Is highly likely to have extremely unhealthy relationships with narcissists until they recognize and thoroughly understand NPD and how to overcome their programming.

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