30 Pieces Of Marriage Advice From People Married For Over 30 Years

30 Pieces Of Marriage Advice From People Married For Over 30 Years
30 Pieces Of Marriage Advice From People Married For Over 30 Years
Marriage advice

9. “Know that compromise is inevitable in a multi-decade relationship. Maybe you want one kid and they want three. Or you want two cats and they want zero. There will be hundreds, if not thousands, of instances where one of you will have to acquiesce to the desires of the other. This is natural. Don’t avoid these conversations. Lean in, and focus on how much you get, overall, from being with this person.” – Joseph

10. “Pay attention to the details. If she mentions she likes something or wants something, write it down so you know what to get her for her next birthday/Christmas gift. Plugin her phone at night so it’s always fully charged. Do the dishes without being asked and without drawing attention to it. Basically just be a good person, and give her your energy.” – Cam

11. “Make sex a priority. There may be short periods of your marriage where decreased sex is unavoidable (newborns, travel, start-ups, etc.), but consistently put energy into making sure that you’re sexually connecting with each other. Everything flows better when you’re making love at least on a weekly basis.” – Rebecca

12. “Be kind, put in the effort, don’t stress too much. If you picked the right person for you, it’ll all work out for you in the end.” – James

13. “Be explicit about the roles that you both play in your household. My husband and I found a lot of relief indirectly naming who was expected to do most of the dishes (or laundry, or chauffeuring the kids around, or organizing dinners with friends, etc.). The more directly you talk about this stuff, the lower the likelihood that either of you will ever resent the other for doing/not doing what you secretly want them to be doing.” – Tess

14. “The quality of your sex life will ebb and flow at different parts of your marriage. Don’t worry. Your marriage isn’t broken, or different. This is natural.” – Trevor

15. “Something I wish someone had told me before I got married would be this: marry someone who is financially stable. Or, at least, not financially reckless. There’s so much stress that comes from not having your shared finances in order, and so much freedom and spaciousness that comes from having money sorted.” – Renata

16. “The main thing I would want people to know is that they should talk about their sex life with their partner. My wife and I didn’t do this until well into our marriage (more than 15 years in), and I wish we had done it sooner. It really marked a new chapter in the depth of our relationship.” – Ray

17. “Nothing will make your relationship flourish more than regularly meditating on the fact that your relationship is about growth above all else. If they’re pissing you off, then there’s something to learn there. If you have a difficult time bringing a specific emotion to them, then that’s something to grow into. See it all like feedback, all of it as valuable, and all of it as being something for you to utilize and grow through.” – Mary

30 Pieces Of Marriage Advice From People Married For Over 30 Years
Marriage advice

18. “Be more open to exploring sexually with your partner than you may have initially thought when you first came into the relationship. You can go so much deeper with a partner when you’ve been with them for a long time versus how deep you may have gone with short term partners from before you were married. It’s a completely different ballpark.” – Patrick

19. “Respect yourself and your partner enough to remain physically attractive for each other. Go to the gym, put on makeup, dress nice. Do whatever you need to do to keep putting in the effort.” – Janeen

20. “I would recommend that couples have an overarching policy of ‘You can bring me any truth you need to, no matter how difficult it might be to bring to me.’ This policy can save you from so much pain, lost time, and wishy-washy mind reading.” – Hannah

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