Ever felt that hammer drill pounding in your chest, the excessively loud ringing in your ears, dryness in your mouth like you`ve eaten gritty, salty sea sand, and you just can’t focus on anything around you? Yep, I’ve experienced these social anxiety symptoms and so many more. I’ve even reached the point where I’ve felt as though my entire body temperature increased and I was burning up, all while sitting with a group of people!
What is Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia affects our everyday social life, such as, not attending social events or not wanting to attend work or school, and is more common than you may think. So what is it?
Dr Thomas A. Richards explains:
Social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.
Spot on Dr Richards!
Social anxiety disorder can devastate our lives because even though we do realise that the fear is extreme or irrational, we often feel immobilised by the intense feelings it brings.
So how can we engage in a better social life and learn to control this fear? #overcomefear
3 Ways to Deal with Social Anxiety
1. Breathe In, Belly Out – Breathe Out, Belly In
I know what you’re thinking – breathing techniques are a bunch of bogus, I try and I try but it doesn’t work! Right? Well, I thought so too, until about a year ago when I was browsing through some articles on LinkedIn.
I came across a video by Jeff Ansell called Communicating with Confidence which I do not remember anything about except ‘breathe in, belly out – breathe out, belly in’. I decided to give it a try. I became conscious of my breathing and I kept practicing this. I practiced this alone, I practiced it while experiencing racing thoughts, I practiced it when I was on the phone and at work too. I found that this technique made a profound impact on my social anxiety symptoms. The hammer drill pounding stopped and because of that all the other symptoms stopped too.
Here’s a site that talks a little more about the breathing technique in an article called the power of calming belly breathing. I’ve added it here in case you want to find out more about this technique, or you want to follow a specific way to do the bibo bobi.
To be honest – I didn’t time my breathing, nor did I pause and hold it as the article I linked suggests. All I did was train myself to make BIBO-BOBI a regular breathing pattern for me, and I did it how ever I felt comfortable to do so.
2. Speak to a Professional
As counter intuitive to the condition as it may sound to you, this is the best, most important step you can possibly take to help overcome it. I do realise that it can be hard to actually want to reach out to a professional for various other reasons too, because I’ve been there myself. Sometimes, and unknowingly, the people that we love the most can ‘condition’ us into thinking that it’s all in our head, which makes it even harder for us to recognise that it is an actual disorder, deterring us from seeking help.
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