What You Can Do
The best you can do here, once you’re sure that he’s moving on, is just walk away. Resist the urge to have an “exit interview” to understand what you did wrong.
But people have a gut instinct about whether someone will be a good partner or not. Your “true love radar” may be broken right now just because you’re so eager to find it. And so maybe you ignored signs that he wasn’t right for you because you wanted him to be.
Honey, no amount of ignoring those signs will make him be right for you. Trust that.
You deserve to be with a man who so completely fits you that you can’t believe you ever settled for good enough. So free up the energy you’re wasting trying to make this guy fit into that true love profile in order to be available for love to find you.
Get to the bottom of why he’s pulled away.
I want you to walk away from this article understanding that the reasons why men pull away rarely have anything to do with your flaws. You are amazing.
In the early days of a relationship, it’s easy to want to get things right. You don’t want to risk turning him off by being your usual loud, sarcastic self.
So you second-guess everything you do, and you read too much into his every move.
But trust me: you’re better off being your morning-breath yoga-pants-wearing curse-like-a-sailor self than pretending you’re some dainty flower.
Because the man who wants to be with you forever — whether he needs some space for himself from time to time or no — will love you because of all those things, not in spite of them.
And if he chooses to walk away, it’s not because of any of the things you’re insecure about. It’s because you’re not right together.
So understand that why men pull away and why they need space doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is DOA. It may mean he’s comfortable enough in your relationship to have some distance…or he doesn’t know how to talk to you about what’s in his head.
The best thing you can do…the best way you can be an amazing girlfriend…is to give him that space. Swallow those insecurities and wait it out. There’s a good chance he’ll fly back eagerly into your arms after he’s processed whatever he’s going through.
And if he doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to be. Plain and simple.
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Written by Adam LaDolce
Originally appeared on SexyConfidence
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