11. They May Seem Like They Are Over-Apologizing Sometimes.
However, be assured that it is sincere. They are even harder on themselves than they are on you. They struggle deeply with empathy and self-blame.
12. You May Spend Time Talking Your Partner Through Situations That Are Unlikely To Ever Happen.
They know it’s not rational, but they appreciate your patience.
13. Your Partner Will Go Far, Far Out Of Their Way Not To Hurt You – Or Anyone Else.
Sometimes this will come at the expense of their own self-care.
14. They Make Up Their Own Rules And Form Their Own Boundaries.
The “three-day rule” means nothing to them, and they will text you back right away.
15. They May Over-Prepare For Unlikely Tragedies.
Know that this is because there was once a time when they were caught unprepared when a nightmare came their way. They’ll do anything to avoid reliving that.
16. Your Partner’s Paranoia Is Their Defense Mechanism.
They use it to protect themselves. As their trust in you grows, this will slowly start to fade. However, it may never disappear entirely.
17. They Will Not Put You Through A Guilt Trip To Gain The Upper Hand.
If they confront you about something, it means they are truly upset by it.
18. Everything Will Be Analyzed Down To The Letter.
Indulging this impulse will create a sense of safety and security, while fighting it will only breed suspicion. It isn’t fair, but acts of love are rarely about equality.
19. They Are Terrified To Be Hurt Again – But They Won’t Let This Harden Their Heart.
20. They Will Love You Completely, Forever, And Unconditionally.
“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares,” wrote Henri J.M. Nouwen.
Did You See Your Partner In This List? If So, Hold On To Them. You Can Doubt This Person’s Decisions, Their Wisdom, And Even Their Sanity – But You Can Never Doubt Their Ability To Care. That’s A Special Thing In Our Society.
Originally published on IHeartIntelligence