17 Connections Between A Narcissist And Their Victim With Anxiety Disorder

Connections Narcissist and Victim With Anxiety Disorder

7. A narcissist will deny things that have happened while someone with anxiety will hold on tight to the pain.

You think back to something in the past that might have been traumatizing and they easily forget the moments where they didn’t come out looking good. When someone with anxiety looks back at the past, it’s often accurate because it hurt them so much. But instead of actually healing and moving on, they hear something like, “that never happened.”

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8. A narcissist will pick you apart while someone with anxiety already picks themselves apart and is an easy victim.

A narcissist will groom insecurity within its victim to a point where they don’t even have to be the ones tearing them down anymore. They hold you to these unrealistic and unattainable standards that no one can reach. Someone with anxiety tries so hard to be good enough then picks themselves apart and people wonder why don’t they have more confidence.

When someone is tearing you down every chance they get and making you feel horrible about who you are because it doesn’t match up to their standard good luck walking away even a little sure of yourself.

9. You blame a narcissist for something and they direct it back to you.

That time they hit you. That time they said something horrible. That time they lost it on you for no reason other than they couldn’t control their emotions, it was your fault because you triggered them to act that way.

They blame you for anything that might go wrong in their life they will never hold themselves accountable.

10. A narcissist will resort to name-calling while someone with anxiety will analyze if it’s true what they said.

When they have nothing else to use, unkind words hurt like hell but their acid tongue doesn’t stop until they see they’ve completely broken you.

Someone with anxiety disorder won’t sit there and say ‘I didn’t deserve this.’ They will say ‘what did I do to cause them to lash out at me.’

11. A narcissist will ruin holidays or celebrations looking for any reason to be unhappy. While someone with anxiety thrives on trying to please someone who will never be happy.

Do you ever notice how on most days when everyone else is happy, this person somehow ruins it diverting the attention back to themselves? They want everyone to be focused on them and they will do anything to steal the spotlight. While someone with an anxiety disorder is the peacemaker and will do everything in their power to calm the situation even if it means compromising their self-respect.

When you have anxiety and you’ve been affected by a narcissist your needs become second to theirs.

12. A narcissist gets you hooked while someone with anxiety fears abandonment.

A narcissist needs to feel needed. They need to feel like you wouldn’t be able to function without them. So they break you down and be the ones to build you back up. They try and make you believe they are the only ones who can love someone like you.

Someone with anxiety clings to a series of these dependent relationships trying so hard to win their love and affection. A narcissist teaches you, love isn’t unconditional but comes and goes when they choose and someone with anxiety then ends up having a lot of abandonment issues because of this.

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13. A narcissist will cause drama and spread false rumors while someone with anxiety crumbles at someone talking about them or thinking someone doesn’t like them.

Even if it isn’t true, instead of checking their facts, a narcissist will go after you for it. Instead of hearing your side, if you’ve made them look bad or tarnished their reputation beware.

Narcissists look at every relationship as a reflection of them. So if you aren’t living up to their standards and people are talking about you, they don’t think twice, they just believe it because they thrive on negativity and drama.

And when you have anxiety and someone is saying something untrue and mean, you don’t defend yourself, you just deal with the pain someone else has caused knowing you didn’t deserve that.

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  1. I’m a 64 yr. old woman. We’ve been married for almost 46 yrs. His Mom, from the beginning would tell him I had another man, and she would call me a whore. I should have spoken up. I left it to him to speak to her and tell her that none of this is true. It was a slow process for us. He’s a crier and when I would ask if he talked with her, he would start crying and tell me how bad his life was at home, which I completely understand. He went from telling me he would talk to her and make her stop, to saying “Well, you are just taking what she said wrong,” then to say, she didn’t mean it like that. I would ask, how can I be taking it wrong when she says I have another man and calls me a whore. No answer. His Mom would have fits and all the 7 kids would come in to soothe her, which was weird to me, but I said nothing. She is dead and now there’s nothing that can be done. So I just let it go. About 5-6 yrs. ago he told someone about how wonderful his parents were and that they didn’t do anything wrong to anyone. After someone dies, it’s probably normal to overlook lots of things. I asked him why he would lie to someone about that. I said, I don’t expect you to run them down, but why would you lie. He said “I didn’t lie” I said, you know what she did to you as a child and to myself after we were married. He said, she NEVER done or said anything wrong to you. I said ” you were there in the same room when she said those very ugly things.” He said she never said anything bad to you or said anything. He proceeded to tell me that I made ALL that up. He said ” you Misunderstand everything.” This was when my eyes were opened to his abuse. I, in the past would just let it go cause he would cry about how she abused him with words. I’ve examined my life since then. How could I let this happen. Why did I let her and him get away with this. About 15 yrs. ago, his sister came to US and told US that she was part of the plan to get rid of me from the beginning, along with another sister and their Mom. She said she finally realized that what their Mom was saying was a lie. She asked me to forgive her and I gladly did. I never knew this was happening even thought It certainly felt that way, but who does this to someone. I was always shy and I never slept around or did things like that. I told him we need to talk about this. He would say I’m going to bed {We haven’t slept together for about 12 yrs., because of his snoring, which he can’t help. I have told him for yrs. to get help for his snoring, he NEVER did, which tells me that he don’t care if he sleeps with me or not.} His other excuses for not talking was I’m going hunting or I’m going to town and etc. I wanted to see a marriage counselor and he said NO. He said, we don’t have any problems. I kept trying to communicate and all he would do is give excuses. So, I just quit trying and started to make arrangements to live in a low income Senior facility, based on my S.S. We’re not poor or rich, Our money is in his name only, which tells you how much I trusted him. We did finally see a counselor, but he just made more excuses and cried and said I was lying on him and his family. He throws me under the bus often. I’m making my life better and I’m glad my eyes were finally opened. I have a lot of work to do, I’m getting a job for support. I’m working out and getting stronger. I was always independent. I don’t know how or when I lost myself.

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