15 Types Of Toxic People That Ruin Relationships

toxic people that ruin relationships

They’ll only hear things through their negative filter, so the more you talk, the more they’ll twist what you’re saying. They want power, not a relationship. They’ll use your weaknesses against you and they’ll use your strengths – your kindness, your openness, your need for stability in the relationship.

If they’re showing tenderness, be careful – there’s something you have that they want. Show them the door, and lock it when they leave.

Toxic People That Ruin Relationships
Toxic People Ruin Relationships

5. The Bullshitter.

They talk themselves up, they talk others down and they always have a reason for not doing what they say. They’ll lie outright or they’ll give you versions of the truth – not a lie, not the truth, just that feeling in your gut that something is off. You can’t believe a word they say.

There’s no honesty, which means there’s no intimacy. At worst bullshitters are heartbreakers. At best they’re raving bores.

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6. The Attention Seeker.

It’s nice to be needed. It’s also nice to eat peanut butter, but it doesn’t mean you want it all the time. The attention seeker always has a crisis going on and they always need your support. Be ready for the aggression, passive aggression, angst, or a guilt trip if you don’t respond.

‘Oh. You’re going to dinner with friends? It’s just that I’ve had the worst day and I really needed you tonight. Oh well, I suppose I can’t always expect you to be there for me. If it’s that important to you then you should go. I just want you to be happy. I’ll just stay in by myself and watch TV or something (sigh). You go and have fun with your friends. I suppose I’ll be okay.’

See how that works? When there’s always a crisis, it’s only a matter of time before you’re at the center of one.

7. The One Who Wants to Change You.

It’s one thing to let you know that the adorable snort thing you do when you laugh isn’t so adorable, but when you’re constantly reminded that you aren’t smart enough, good-looking enough, skinny enough, strong enough, you have to start thinking that the only thing that isn’t good enough about you is this loser who keeps pointing these things out.

When a relationship hurts to be in, the only thing that will change will be you – a sadder, unhappier version of the person you started out as.

You’ll never be good enough for these people because it’s not about you; it’s about control and insecurity – theirs, not yours. As long as they’re working on changing you, they don’t have to worry about themselves, and as long as they can keep you small, they’ll have a shot at shining brighter.

These people will make you doubt yourself by slowly convincing you that they know best and that they’re doing it all for you. ‘You’d just be so much prettier if you lost a few pounds, you know? I’m just being honest.’ Ugh. Unless you have to be craned through your window, or you’re seriously unhealthy, it’s nobody else’s business how luscious your curves are.

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