Myth #2: Introverts are rude (they’re surly and ill-mannered)
Truth: We’re selectively social
We can be blunt, and appear slightly bored and impatient at times, but this is because small talk disinterests us. We prefer intimate and meaningful conversations. We also become physically drained easily if we’re around too many people for too long. This can make us appear not only rude but avoidant as well, especially if we’ve been invited to parties and social functions that we turn down. This is simply a quirk of our natural temperaments. We rarely intend to be deliberately rude
Myth #3: Introverts always want to be alone
Truth: We’re easily drained
Being an introvert is not the same as being a lone wolf. (And even if it is, what’s wrong with being a loner anyway?) The truth is that the majority of introverts don’t like to always be alone. Frequently, we have one or two close friends we like to spend time with – but at certain times and levels. Although we value and thrive in ‘alone time,’ we value small doses of social time as well.
Myth #4: Introverts don’t like to go out (they’re agoraphobic)
Truth: We’re internally stimulated
Although we like to spend a lot of time indoors, we don’t suffer from a collective mental illness. We find our stimulation inside of ourselves – with our thoughts and our own hobbies. This means that we don’t need to “go out” all that often, as we already have what we need to thrive. Introverts also value the comfort, safety, and privacy of their own personal environments, which may lead us to stay indoors more than other people. We usually don’t mind going out – but it just isn’t necessary for us.
Myth #5: Introverts have no friends (they’re losers)
Truth: We’re intimately selective
It’s true, we struggle to make friends in many cases. But this is because we selectively pick people who we think would make worthy long-term companions. Many introverts have one or two friends to confide in, but the fact that we take a while to open up to people means that it’s difficult at first for us to make friends. This is why many introverted children and teenagers find themselves friendless in school. It doesn’t mean they exclusively always like to be alone without any companions.
Myth #6: Introverts are depressive people
Truth: We’re quietly complacent
Just like depressive people, introverts can come across as being quiet and detached. The essential difference between depressed people and introversion is that introverts are complacent in their quietness, whereas depressive people are dissatisfied with their quietness. Yes, there is such a thing as a depressed introvert, but the majority of introverts are quietly content in their world. They aren’t in constant conflict with themselves and the universe, although they do occasionally face issues, they aren’t trapped in them, as depressive people are.
Myth #7: Introverts are weirdos
Truth: We embrace eccentricity
It’s unfortunate that, out of fear, many people make sweeping generalizations about the nature of introverts. Being a twisted lunatic is just another of them. True, we may do things differently and have unconventional quirks that deviate from the popular norm, but we aren’t dangerous or completely mad. Introverts feed on their own inner world and mind, not other people’s. This tendency to go/live within makes the introvert’s behavior at times odd, and other times unique. Perhaps this was how the world made it’s the greatest progress: through its introverted scientists and thinkers and their individual eccentricities which didn’t recycle the same repeated ideas.
Myth #8: Introverts hate people (they’re misanthropes)
Truth: We value people
As quiet, thoughtful, and occasionally skeptical people, introverts can come across as being people-haters. Of course, it can’t be said that 100% of introverts value people, but a vast majority of them do. Besides, not liking being around people does not equate to not liking people themselves. Introverts just value calmness and people in small doses, which is why they can come across as being brusque and short-tempered in hyper-active people-populated environments.
Myth #9: Introverts don’t like to talk (they have nothing to say)
Truth: We speak selectively
While some people spit out anything that comes to mind, introverts prefer to quietly hang by the fringes. They prefer to think before speaking, and closely listen to what is being said before contributing. If too many people are present, introverts usually have a hard time getting any word in, so decide to remain silent instead. There’s no point voicing a well-thought-out opinion if it will fall on deaf ears. As a result, introverts are usually labeled falsely as people who don’t like to speak or who have nothing to say. The truth is, we just speak selectively.
Myth #10: Introverts are uptight party-poopers (they can’t have fun)
Truth: We’re uniquely fun
Introverts make their own fun and tailor it to suit themselves and their own unique needs. Sure, we may not like to participate in drunken karaoke or sip piña coladas in elite social clubs. But we have fun in different ways – like book clubs, making gnomes in pottery classes, and designing our own web-comics. Sure, we may come across as being uptight and uncomfortable in socially “fun” and overwhelming situations, but this isn’t because we’re party-poopers. We just prefer to have fun in different ways.
Myth #11: Introverts are mentally inept (they’re stupid)
Truth: We’re insightfully intelligent
Many people falsely assume that introverts are unintelligent because, one, they don’t frequently voice their ideas and thoughts, and two, they’re too quiet. The fact is, if people just stopped to listen and observe, they would see that the introvert has a fountain of useful knowledge and well-constructed thoughts to contribute. Quietness does not equal stupidity, neither does loudness equal intelligence.