Introverts hate people – they’re misanthropes.
Truth: We value people.
As quiet, thoughtful and occasionally skeptical people, introverts can come across as being people-haters. Of course, it can’t be said that 100% of introverts value people, but a vast majority of them do. Besides, not liking being around people does not equate to not liking people themselves. Introverts just value calmness and intelligence, and people in small doses, which is why they can come across as being brusque and short-tempered in hyper-active people environments.
Introverts don’t like to talk – they have nothing to say.
Truth: We speak selectively.
While people yap away and verbalize anything that comes to mind, introverts prefer to quietly hang by the fringes. They prefer to think before speaking, and closely listen to what is being said before contributing. If too many people are present, introverts usually have a hard time getting any word in, so decide to remain silent instead. There’s no point voicing a well thought-out opinion if it will fall on deaf ears. As a result, introverts are usually labelled falsely as people who don’t like to speak, or who have nothing to say. The truth is, we just speak selectively.
Introverts are uptight party-poopers – they can’t have fun.
Truth: We’re uniquely fun.
Introverts make their own fun, and tailor it to suit themselves and their own unique needs. Sure, we don’t like to participate in drunken karaoke, or sip piña colada’s in elite social clubs. But we have fun in different ways – like book clubs, making gnomes in pottery classes, and designing our own web-comics Sure, we may come across as being uptight and uncomfortable in socially “fun” and overwhelming situations, but this isn’t because we’re party-poopers. We just prefer to have fun in different ways.
Introverts are mentally inept – they’re stupid.
Truth: We’re insightfully intelligent.
Many people falsely assume that introverts are unintelligent because, one, they don’t frequently voice their ideas and thoughts, and two, they’re too quiet and submissive. The fact is, if people just stopped to listen and observe, they would see that the introvert has a fountain of useful knowledge and well-constructed thoughts to contribute. Quietness does not equal stupidity, neither does loudness equal intelligence.
Introverts are sneaky – they’re sly and devious.
Truth: We value solitude.
This is one of the more bizarre myths about introverts out there. Some people assume that because introverts go off by themselves a lot, they have something to hide. Many people also become suspicious of introverts, especially when they share so little of themselves to the world. The truth is, introverts aren’t evil or sneaky. Perhaps some possess these traits, but most introverts simply need alone-time to re-cooperate and revitalize – not build bombs, or swindle people.
Introverts are shy.
Truth: We are reserved.
It’s true that many shy people are introverted. Yet not all introverts are shy – they’re just reserved, or in other words, they like to keep to themselves and not involve themselves in the affairs of other people too much. The different between shyness and introversion is that shy people are scared of social contact, introverts aren’t. They just prefer to avoid it in large quantities.
Introverts have low self-esteem.
Truth: We are sensitive but strong.
Of course, low self esteem is common to many people, and introverts are no exception. But most importantly, introversion is not defined by possessing low self-esteem. Even extroverts and ambiverts have low self-esteem, which manifests itself in different ways to the introvert’s. The point is, by default, introverts don’t suffer poor self esteem. Being quiet and detached from other people at times is not an instant marker of self-hatred or poor self confidence.
Introversion is an affliction that can be fixed.
Truth: Introversion isn’t curable.
If introversion is a deeply embedded personality temperament mostly determined by genetics, then it can’t be “cured”. It’s also false to assume that introversion is some kind of curse that should be fixed. Certainly, being introverted has many down falls (including all the false myths described in this article), but it also has many perks and positives. See this article to check them out.
The purpose of this article was to dispel 15 of the most popular and harmful myths about introverts. So, if you think that I’ve missed any you feel are important, please share them below. 🙂