7) Be polite and yet assertive
Sometimes we tend to forget to establish the necessary boundaries in our relationships because we don’t want to appear as rude or pushy.
But it is very important to put your needs cross.
You can be polite and yet assertive and draw essential boundaries with people.
8) Don’t try to fake a relationship
Be polite and on good terms with your in-laws but don’t try to fake a relationship that isn’t necessarily there.
If despite all your efforts, there is no warmth or intimacy in your relationship, then you just need to keep your relationship functional instead of trying to fake a lovey-dovey relationship that isn’t there.
9) Don’t stoop down to her level
It is tempting to give someone the taste of their own medicine. But don’t stoop down to anyone’s level. Avoid taking digs at your mother in law or calling her names. Avoid getting personal in your arguments. Just be level-headed and present the facts and avoid unnecessary drama or negativity.
Use meditation and mindfulness and take the higher road and don’t let anything she does take away your peace of mind.
10) Don’t take anything personally
It is never a good idea to take criticism personally. Just listen to it objectively, if there is any merit in it, then take those points and improve your behavior, otherwise just let it go.
11) Find a constructive outlet for your anger
Find out creative outlets for your anger. Go for walks, exercise, hikes or take up some creative activity like dancing, martial arts or singing.
Anything physical or creative will help you to channelize your anger creatively and help you to work through negative emotions easily.
12) Have a support group
It is not a good idea to go to your spouse all the time for problems with your mother in law. Find your support group; be it trusted friends or family members who can be there for you when you need to vent out your frustration and who can be good counsellors to provide you with constructive ways to deal with your difficult mother in law.
13) Learn to create boundaries
You cannot pour from an empty cup. Learn to take care of yourself and excuse yourself from stressful situations.. Even if it means avoiding family gatherings or not taking calls from your mother in law.
Learn to take some time off or yourself and communicate your boundaries to people around you so that they know when to give yourself some time off.
14) Practice healthy selfishness
You need to learn to practice healthy selfishness. If you are being disrespected or treated unfairly by your in-laws, you have every right to draw healthy boundaries to protect yourself, have every right to cut down on the time spent with your in-laws.
These are 14 smart ways to deal with a difficult mother in law.
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