13 Ways Manipulators Use Passive Aggressiveness To Manipulate and Abuse You


Simply, describe their behavior and explain the effect it has on you and the relationship in factual terms. Using words such as:

When you do X, I feel Y and I believe it would be better for our relationship if instead we try Z

It’s all about having strong boundaries, which are key to signaling to them how you expect to be treated.

There are even times when you can find yourself acting passive aggressively.  I have.

There was one time when I started to use sarcasm and put-downs to covertly bully my husband.  I wasn’t even aware I was doing it at the time.

It was when certain events impacted our relationship and we fell into an unhealthy parent-child dynamic.

Thankfully, I recognized this and that it was coming from a place of insecurity within both of us.

I learned love is a verb, not a noun.  To get us back on track I needed to show him I loved him with my actions, not just words.

We both needed to nurture our boundaries, sense of self-esteem and self-worth.

So, back to her question:

Is passive aggressiveness a part of the dynamic?   A form of emotional abuse?

The answer is: Yes. In codependent relationships, definitely.

Passive anger or passive-aggressiveness is a form of emotional abuse.  Coercive control.

It’s aimed at making the other person feel small, so they can feel greater about themselves.

Related Video: Things Narcissists Do

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13 Ways Manipulators Use Passive Aggressiveness To Abuse You