4) Feeling of suspicion and distrust
We are mostly off guard in our intimate relationships because we trust the other person to take care of our well being. But if we are abused by the same person whom we trusted wholeheartedly, it breaks our foundation of trust.
The survivors of PTRS tend to get into a hyper vigilance mode. They always have their guard up and become full of suspicion. They feel like the world is out there to get them and find it difficult to trust people easily.
5) Sleep disturbances
If your mind and heart are not at peace, it is almost impossible to get a good night’s sleep.
The pain and anxiety can manifest more profusely at night in the form of nightmares, flashbacks, night sweats. It can seriously hamper the sleep cycle of an individual and result in acute insomnia.
6) Persistent feelings of rage and anger
The feelings of pain and hurt can lead to extreme bitterness, rage and anger in an individual towards the perpetrator of trauma.
It also impacts their ability to see the brighter side of life and they may start hating even those things which they previously enjoyed.
7) Restlessness and listlessness
Depression and pain can manifest in two ways, it can either lead to extreme restlessness on one hand and listlessness on the other hand.
People who have suffered from PTRS can either become extremely sad or mourn a lot on one hand or emotionally numb on other hand. They can just shut down and check out emotionally in order to protect themselves from any further pain.
8) Extreme weight loss or gain
Extreme weight loss or gain is a sign that your body is undergoing trauma.
When you are in an abusive relationship, it feels like you are walking on egg-shells and it activates the fight or flight response in your body.
It in turn affects your energy and immune system and results in extreme weight loss or gain.
9) Not feeling safe or secure in the world
Traumatic stressors in an intimate relationship challenge a person’s very foundational belief system and knowledge of self/world. They are not able to trust that the world is a safe place and people are kind in general.
They also start questioning their own self as to how they could not recognize the abuser’s intentions earlier and start doubting their ability to judge a person accurately.
They also lose confidence in their ability to deal with crisis situation because they extrapolate their response in this traumatic situation to mean that, this is how they are always going to respond to crisis situations.
To get out of this cycle of painful belief systems, a person has to slowly and gradually adopt new paradigms and belief systems.
10) Fear of intimate relations (or a particular type of intimate relationship)
The devastating effects of Trauma caused due to stressors in intimate relationships are far more than in other traumatic situations because of the human element involved.
It is because we are attached to the individual and trust them completely and when that trust is broken in an intimate relationship, it can severely impair our ability to trust people in intimate relationships.
It can lead to a lot of physical arousal symptoms like fear and panic and the individual eventually begins to associate these feelings with that particular kind of a relationship.
For example, if a person has suffered any kind of abuse in romantic relationships, he may become extremely cautious and fearful of only intimate romantic relationships whereas he can function normally and enjoy other relationships.