12 Signs You’re Emotionally Traumatized By A Hurtful Breakup

12 Signs Emotionally Traumatized Hurtful Breakup

10) You’re in denial.

You can’t believe that your relationship is over. You keep hoping, praying and dreaming that he will call you, he will ask for your forgiveness, you will reconcile with him and things will go back to the way they were in the beginning when he was loving, affectionate and caring.

11) You relive hurtful memories.

You rehash the hurtful conversations and the abusive events of your relationship. It’s a never-ending horror movie that plays over and over in your head. You can’t begin the healing process because you’re stuck in the past.

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12) You sedate your emotional pain.

You drink, smoke pot or you take recreational drugs excessively. The more you drink and dope up, the more depressed you become. You’re on a path of self-destruction.

Acceptance is the hardest part of grieving.

Giving up the hope of reconciliation with your loved one feels like death. Accepting the brutal fact that you will never again see him, talk to him or touch him feels incomprehensible.

But the man you grieve for is an illusion.

You fell in love with a wonderful man. In the beginning, he was loving and lovable, charming, supportive and attentive, but soon his true nature reared its ugly head. He lied to you. He cheated on you. He mentally battered you and he physically assaulted you.

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Realizing that you were in an abusive relationship is the first step to healing.

The sooner your trauma is addressed, the better chance you have of fully recovering.

You have experienced a serious harmful event that has damaged your self-esteem, personal security and core spirit. Don’t try to white knuckle your recovery.

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You need professional help to restore your mental, spiritual and physical well-being. You may be suffering from situational depression and need antidepressants or anti-anxiety drugs. You need psychological guidance to address the post-traumatic effects of an abusive relationship and start the grieving process.

When you’re emotionally traumatized by a hurtful breakup, your recovery won’t happen overnight, but hopefully, a year from now, when you are enjoying happy hour margaritas with your friends, you will ask, who in the hell was that ugly, horrid man?


Written by Nancy Nichols
Originally appeared on KnowItNancy.com
Republished with permission.
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