Habits of People With Concealed Depression

 December 27, 2015

Habits of People With Concealed Depression

 

There will be two main types of people reading this blog: those finding themselves better equipped to understand some of the people they love and those who see their own reflections in these habits.

Depression often goes unseen, unrecognized, and undiagnosed. A person with concealed depression is someone who is conditioned to deal with their inner demons in a way that doesn’t make them clearly visible. They may or may not be diagnosed, and this may or may not be something they’ve shared with even their closest of companions. The problem is that the world becomes darkest when we all stop being able to understand each other. We tend to believe that hardship is worn openly upon one’s chest like a battle scar, but many of these wounds do not easily reveal themselves to those that do not take the time to look.

 

1.  They may intentionally make efforts to appear OK and maybe even seem exponentially happy and upbeat.

The idea that those with depression all have one similarly dreary personality is false. Depression is more than just a mood. Those who live with depression have learned to alter their apparent moods, and may even be some of the most seemingly “happy” people that you know. Personalities can vary. Often those with depression try to stick with the positive and public parts of their demeanor regardless of what they’re going through on the inside. No one wants to bring others down, even if that means hiding how he or she is truly feeling.

 

2.  They may have habitual remedies.

There are serious ways to treat depression, including therapy and medication. However, in addition to these remedies, there are lifestyle habits that those with depression use to treat their everyday state-of-mind. This can be in the form of music, exercise, driving, walks, or basically, anything they know can get themselves out of a sinking set of emotions. Concealed depression has a lot to do with the ways people try to personally conquer their own demons.

 

3.  They may have trouble with abandonment. 

Anyone who has experienced depression understands the burden it can be. It can also be a burden for those closest to them. Sometimes when you let someone in enough to see the struggles you have, they walk the other way. Though it’s hard to blame these people for leaving, it creates a serious feeling of abandonment for those with depression. It forges a need for secrecy, out of fear of the recession of those they love. There is nothing more heartbreaking than finding out your ugliest layer of self is too ugly for someone you love to handle.

 

 

 

4.  They can be pros at “cover-up” stories.

This can be for anything from the cuts on their arms to the reason they skipped dinner. People who live with different forms of depression experience various hardships that can at times impede the normalcy of their daily lives. In these low instances, they know what to say to avoid attention from others to those displays of pain. Often they don’t want to recognize that they are hitting a low point either, so they know how to hide it.

22 comments on “Habits of People With Concealed Depression

  1. I saw myself in here too. I have been treated for depression both with medication and with therapy. I have had some very horrific traumas happen in childhood and in young adulthood. Those things and other things contributed to the diagnosis of Severe Recurring Depression. I live in an assisted living facility and am the second youngest person here; I am in my 60’s. Due to the traumas I have tried suicide, but each time they found me and I was hospitalized. As you can tell, I am still alive. There are three others in my family, that I know of, that have commited suicide, three cousins and my dad. Each of these had some form of depression and were alcoholics. I will not try suicide again, my therapy is working well and I can see stopping it in the next year. The medication is also helping quite well. I know very well this is not always the case. I truly wish that everyone who has this insidious disease would consent to treatment before it is too late.

  2. This is a great article – I see my son in all of these points – it made me cry as he will not get help and thinks he can do it on his own and he may well do that. He sees things is such a different light and makes some fantastic profound statements and observations that really make me rethink my beliefs and thoughts. I just hope he gets through this constant search for whatever he is here for. He questions everything and has said many times he was never meant to be here on this earth. He is in mental pain everyday and it hurts me to the core. As parents all we want is for our children to be happy. He is 22 and can not see past today. Every day is a struggle for him and me – it hurts so much but I have become used to it and now can turn off” because I knew that it was literally making me ill. I have 2 beautiful daughters who have their own businesses and great partners and Im so happy for them. They have taught me to let go and live my life and be me, its a work in progress, funny how your babies can grow up and be your saviours. One line in this article really hit me for a six…There is nothing more heartbreaking than finding out your ugliest layer of self is too ugly for someone you love to handle – I think he already knows this. R

  3. As a suicide survivor with severe depressive disorder, I was in just this whole space and hit the stop button in November 2013. This is such an awesomely inspiring article. Thank you

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