13 Habits of People With Concealed Depression

Habits of People With Concealed Depression

5. They may understand substances differently.

Someone who is dealing with depression withdraws from people and refrain from seeking help, which leaves them with no option but to use self-help methods, which can be harmful. 

They understand that caffeine, sugar can lift their mood and help to cope up with inner struggles. They interpret that alcohol and medication can ease their pain. Also, they are aware which medications don’t work and that substance use only gives them temporary relief. But, they have no choice, because they have to try harder to feel better, unlike most people. 

6. They may have habitual remedies.

People with concealed depression use a range of alternative methods to conquer their inner demons and ease their mind. Besides therapy and medication, they try music, books, long drives, hiking,  exercises and anything that can help them get away with sinking set of emotions. The habitual remedies may vary from person to person.

13 Habits of People With Concealed Depression

7. They may exhibit a very involved perception of life and death.

Depression doesn’t affect all the people equally, because genetic disposition, family relationships, work life, social life are the factors that determine how they think and act in the moments of despair. So, not every person with depression may have suicidal thoughts. 

Their perspective of life and beyond is unique and complex. People with concealed depression are fighting their battle all alone, trying to make peace with unresolved issues and find answers to life’s deepest questions. They keep shifting from one horrible mindset to another and in this process, they develop involved perception of life and death.

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8. They are often very talented and expressive.

There are many famous people who inspired others and left a lasting impression on the world despite having depression – Katy Perry, Michael Phelps, Kristen Bell, J.K. Rowling to name a few. 

This mental illness can plague anyone irrespective of gender, age, caste, colour, creed, and social status. Depression can’t stop you from living the life you want and achieve profound greatness. You can express your deepest emotions, heart-wrenching experiences in various incredible ways..You can always create something beautiful with the darkness that engulfed you. 

9. They search for purpose.

Having a purpose in life is crucial because it determines your plans, actions and decisions. Knowing that you are moving in the right direction will help you stay motivated and grounded.

People with concealed depression also tend to search for purpose in life, without which a feeling of dissatisfaction and negative thoughts may creep in. Having a purpose can shield their mind against feelings of worthlessness, emptiness and unhappiness.Thus, they keep looking for more ways to feel fulfilled. 

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10. They seek help too.

Depression is invisible to most people, so even when some dealing with this mental illness cry for help, they are overlooked. But, the truth is a depressed individual needs help even if most of the time they are tackling internal conflicts independently. Putting up that fake smile is not always safe and by revealing their true self, they can foster deep connections with their friends and folks, who have different levels of emotions and mindsets. 

11. They struggle to quiet their mind

13 Habits of People With Concealed Depression

Rumination is one of the common habits of people with concealed depression, which includes obsessive and repeated thoughts related to negative events in life. Constantly, over analyzing all the good and bad things in life leaves them drained. Also, they always think of worst-case scenarios, which makes them solve problems easily 

12. They absorb emotions of other people

People with hidden depression are like sponges, they tend to absorb other people’s emotions and energy. They hurt when other people are hurt and suffering, which can add to their emotional pain and stress.

13. They seek love and acceptance, as every person does.

People with hidden depression feel vulnerable and tend to protect themselves by staying aloof. They aren’t dishonest, but they don’t want to burden others or bring others down due to their low emotional state. It is easier to feel alone than express your dark feelings and unpleasant emotions that may or may not be understood. Most people with depression go unnoticed, but they do want to be cared, loved and accepted just like everyone else. 

If you are a person with concealed depression reading this blog  and could relate to the above habits, then try to open up and release pent up emotions even if it is hard to do so. Don’t treat yourself as a burden, those who love you will always stand as pillars for you. And if you know someone in your circle demonstrating these habits then reach out to them. Spread some love and positivity and don’t judge others merely listening to some dark, unpleasant aspects of their life. Seek help and help others too!

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41 thoughts on “13 Habits of People With Concealed Depression”

  1. Wow exactly what I’m going through couldn’t explain it better no one saw the depression just my BFFI wish I will Be strong and go back to the normal me

  2. I ticked off every single one of these. My father has struggled with depression all his life yet refused to see mine, exhorting me instead to ‘pull myself together’, something he always hated to be told himself. It was then I knew I was on my own. It was either suicide or habits.

  3. Until recently I had NO idea what was “wrong” with me. This is even after being involved with a therapist for 3 years. She’d say: “what is wrong, is it me, is it something I did?” All I could say was I didn’t know, that I didn’t think it was anything she did. A year later she left me, saying that she believed I didn’t love her anymore. Then I go to a therapist. I discovered that not only have I been walking around for well over 40+ years feeling this way but also also uncovering that lack of love I felt from my mother which compounds it all. Then a therapist walks into my life that couldn’t see the writing on the wall – it still hurts like hell!

  4. After reading this, I have realised am among those who like locking people outside without telling them what’s really eating me up from the insides…it’s such a hard task to start telling someone what you’re truly going through.

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  6. Jerry lin Yarberry

    Just moved 3 weeks ago, from downtown San Diego; lived there for almost 7 years…I let this lady who I wanted to know better hold on to my orange tabby mix kat cause Ernie is house kat and would of been hard moving at the time of didn’t know where I was going.. she likes Ernie, and thought if I give her my Ernie we can get together assuming she’s on same page and she didn’t want boyfriend and cool with me..we can still e around an I can flirt..I haven’t heard from her since I moved… she never said what she wanted out of rest of life.. nothing..gifts she loves
    I was very pissed, but people do what they do to protect themselves..I want my Ernie back.. but after 2 years.. Ernie’s gone with the wind.last 3 weeks I slept.. thanks for your time..jly

  7. What a generic article! Simplistic, like something you would read in understanding depression for dummies. That’s th eff problem with social media, all these self appointed experts. Bah!

    1. Robert, you may be an expert in this area, but what if someone experiencing depression Googled “depression habits” that brought up this article? It may be the first time that person realizes they are not alone. That could mean life or death to someone. We have to read a lot of the same stuff before we find what we’re really looking for. Just move on if it doesn’t apply to you.

  8. To close to home. Been through the worst parts of my life and even with the meds, I can’t stop thinking how I’d be better off dead. Morbid, I know but it’s the reality of depression. I always said , it not if, it’s when.

    1. I have bipolar and my depression is killing me, so I feel what you are saying on so many levels. I struggle to see the point so much of the time. Medication just doesn’t cut it.

  9. I have seen myself in this article. There are times I can manage it, but there are times I breakdown. It’s not easy opening up to people, especially people you care about because you don’t want to be a burden, but when I think of my family, I have to drag myself, kicking and scratching internally, to move.

    But I wanted just to say thank you for writing this article.

  10. My story is almost similar to you but I am in not that phase of life where you are. This is the only difference. If you don’t mind we can talk to each other and share our feelings. Because I need someone stranger to talk to. It would help me.
    @Chaitanya4vedi is my Instagram. We can have DMs

  11. I was treated for depression and anxiety right after my baby girl was born. I spent 3 years taking medication, gained a lot of weight (I was skinny all my life until then), and almost every day I woke up just to think “why the hell I opened up my eyes? Why can´t I go back to sleep and luckily I won´t wake up anymore?” The fact that I was responsible for my kids and that nobody else could give them the love and care they needed from me, gave me the strength to get out of bed everyday and try to regain control of my life. My husband wasn´t very helpful, he didn´t want to accept my condition. Somehow I managed to function as a “normal” person, I know depression is always there, but now I have tools to confront it and win the fight. But yes, it isn´t easy to let other people get too closer, they could see who yo really are.

    1. I can relate to your feelings with being a Mom & struggling thru the depression. Kudos to you! I’m sure your children adore you. My children are older & grown up now & they validate me every so often..However…I live with guilt that I couldn’t be the Mom they needed when raising them. If the help had been there (believe me-I went to many therapy sessions) but always felt they were angry at me for being depressed & not able to “fake it til I make it” & was so low in energy. The stigma is still attached to mental illness & I am older & wiser now & share everything (that I learned the hard way) with people who are suffering & always try to validate their feelings. I believe the most damage is done to people with mental illness by “lack of” validation. It infuriates me & it’s hard to fathom that people-in these modern times-either don’t comprehend others struggles or simply don’t care.

  12. I saw myself in here too. I have been treated for depression both with medication and with therapy. I have had some very horrific traumas happen in childhood and in young adulthood. Those things and other things contributed to the diagnosis of Severe Recurring Depression. I live in an assisted living facility and am the second youngest person here; I am in my 60’s. Due to the traumas I have tried suicide, but each time they found me and I was hospitalized. As you can tell, I am still alive. There are three others in my family, that I know of, that have commited suicide, three cousins and my dad. Each of these had some form of depression and were alcoholics. I will not try suicide again, my therapy is working well and I can see stopping it in the next year. The medication is also helping quite well. I know very well this is not always the case. I truly wish that everyone who has this insidious disease would consent to treatment before it is too late.

  13. This is a great article – I see my son in all of these points – it made me cry as he will not get help and thinks he can do it on his own and he may well do that. He sees things is such a different light and makes some fantastic profound statements and observations that really make me rethink my beliefs and thoughts. I just hope he gets through this constant search for whatever he is here for. He questions everything and has said many times he was never meant to be here on this earth. He is in mental pain everyday and it hurts me to the core. As parents all we want is for our children to be happy. He is 22 and can not see past today. Every day is a struggle for him and me – it hurts so much but I have become used to it and now can turn off” because I knew that it was literally making me ill. I have 2 beautiful daughters who have their own businesses and great partners and Im so happy for them. They have taught me to let go and live my life and be me, its a work in progress, funny how your babies can grow up and be your saviours. One line in this article really hit me for a six…There is nothing more heartbreaking than finding out your ugliest layer of self is too ugly for someone you love to handle – I think he already knows this. R

  14. As a suicide survivor with severe depressive disorder, I was in just this whole space and hit the stop button in November 2013. This is such an awesomely inspiring article. Thank you

  15. My partner of 37 years, and husband of one year, has suffered from crippling depression for eighteen years. Since I retired we are together 24/7. I don’t leave him alone for more than a couple of hours. After seven years I too am suffering from depression which I hide. We have lost all our friends except for those who live far away. People don’t call nor do they visit. I make the effort to go back to my workplace almost daily just to see people I know. Depression can really kill your life. I had many plans to return to things I had enjoyed before work got in the way, but they are too time consuming to be away from my husband. I realize I am sacrificing too much but the guilt is great.

  16. This is so beautifully said. We should know and have an eye open for people around us. We are not supposed to fix their lifes, we are supposed to see them and give them our love. No matter what.

  17. I connect with with all 11, but I find 11 interesting. Usually people, at least in my case, when u try to show love or connection, it’s usually used or pushed away because it’s “clingy”, when I’m like “everyone else”. It only gets confusing.

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