Enemy is such a harsh word, don’t you think? Sure; there are people you disagree with. But can you really call them your enemies? Well, when people try to lower your morals, hurt you, and bring you down, then yes – we’re talking about enemies. You cannot be loved by everyone, no matter how hard you try.
Look at Anne Hathaway. She’s absolutely perfect. She is beautiful, she is a great actress, and she always has the perfect answers in interviews. Still, the public hatred burst against her has been going on for years. This happens to everyone – some people don’t like us and we can’t see a particular reason.
But you know what? You can learn from these episodes of hatred directed your way.
Let’s say you posted something on Reddit. You just expressed an opinion, but it offended someone. Then, the hate started pouring in. You’re getting comments from people you don’t even know. They put all your flaws under a microscope. People are brave like that, especially when acting from behind a screen.
How do you respond to this?
That’s a quote by Miyamoto Musashi, a legendary Japanese samurai. He added something to it: “Do not let the enemy see your spirit.”
When you get in a discussion with someone who criticizes you, you may heat up and show an elevated spirit. You’ll yell, you’ll offend… you’ll just give them more reasons to hate you. You might also start crying and show all your weaknesses. That’s equally as bad.
The way of the warrior is pretty clear: you should stay focused in your intentions. In discussions, you must lay out your arguments in a calm, confident manner, without really showing your spirit.
Do you consider yourself to be a kind and loving person? Well, enemies test your limits. If you find it difficult to forgive them, then you’re not as loving as you thought you were. Enemies teach you about unconditional love. If you can truly forgive and let the past go, you’re working towards a better self.
Maybe you’re the one who hates. You dislike someone although they didn’t do anything wrong. It’s probably because you see them as similar to yourself in one way or another.
“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself.”
That was Hermann Hesse. Those are not just words; it’s a great truth that forces you to dig deep into your thoughts and emotions towards someone.
Can you really, truly forgive? Forgiveness is not for the sake of being likeable. It’s for the sake of doing good for other people and for yourself. It’s about closing a chapter and moving on. If you can forgive an enemy for hurting you badly, you can congratulate yourself for becoming a better person.
Some people don’t like you. It may be your mother in law, it may be your boss, or it may be that colleague who always plays tricks on you. No matter how hard you try to change this, you can’t.
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