The relationship between a narcissist and an empath is a very toxic one. While empaths usually get attracted to the narcissist and vice versa, the toxic attraction is extremely harmful because the narcissist always thinks the empath owes them a lot.
No matter how much an empath might love a narcissist, it is a match made in hell, because there are always some things a narcissist thinks all empaths owe them.
“A narcissist, on the other hand, is the exact opposite of an empath. Emotionally, narcissists are like brick walls who see and hear others but fail to understand or relate to them. As a result of their emotional shallowness, narcissists are essentially devoid of all empathy or compassion for other people. Lacking empathy, a narcissist is a very destructive and dangerous person to be around.” ― Mateo Sol, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing.
Let’s find out more about how a narcissist thinks.
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10 Things A Narcissist Thinks All Empaths Owe Them
1. They think you owe them your attention.
This is one of the toxic things a narcissist thinks when it comes to being in a relationship with an empath.
They don’t care if they are reciprocating your love or not. What they want is you to give them attention all the time no matter how busy you are.
2. They think you owe them your guilt.
When there’s a toxic relationship between an empath and a narcissist, the latter would make the former feel guilty about things they haven’t done. That’s how they trick you into believing that you don’t have any self-worth.
The moment you start having lower confidence, the moment you start depending on them and doing things they want you to do.
3. They think you owe them your time.
How do narcissists think? Like this! Everything you have, you owe to them!
The narcissist feels all of your time belongs to them. Even if they don’t show up, you need to wait for them without doing anything, and without getting impatient or angry. In their world, whatever free time you have in your hands, it all belongs to them.
4. They think you are responsible for the wrongs they are doing.
This is one of the most toxic things a narcissist believes in.
The narcissist will never take responsibility for their actions. You’re the one who should be held accountable since you’re with them, and it is your responsibility to make things right (Even when it’s not your fault at all). You are the one who is responsible for all the bad things happening to them.
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5. They think you are indebted to them.
One of the major things a narcissist thinks about empaths is that you will always be indebted to them, and they will never spare an opportunity to drive that home.
A narcissist begins a bonding by being a very nice and kind person. This kind nature of theirs pops up once in a blue moon and no matter how much they have hurt you, they feel that they are doing you a favor by being nice to you.
6. They think you owe them your ear to listen.
No, they are not going to listen to your problems or troubles. But they feel it is your duty to listen to their whining and complaints all the time. You always have to be there for them, but they will never be there for you.
7. They think you owe them your companionship.
The narcissist will isolate you from your family and friends. For them, you have to be with them only when they want you. The rest of the time, you have to be alone and isolated from your peers.
8. They think you owe them your kindness.
No matter how hard they are on you, they think you have to be kind and understanding with them.
No matter how badly they treat you or hurt you, your compassion, love, and kindness for them should never waver.
9. They think you owe them your freedom.
They are the ones who will decide for you, what you would wear, where you would go, etc. They think that your freedom isn’t your birthright at all and they are the ones who will dictate your life, and how you should live it.
10. They think they own you.
In a narcissist and empath relationship, this is the harshest truth. The narcissist thinks they own you, you are their property and they can do whatever they want with you. You are not allowed to have your own life, opinions, wishes, desires, and dreams.
Whatever you do, and who you are, all of it belongs to them and them only.
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A relationship between a narcissist and an empath is a very difficult one and it takes a lot of time for the empath to come out of it and move on.
An empath’s inherently kind and good nature stops them from leaving a narcissist because they don’t want to hurt them. But once an empath has had enough, and they end up leaving the narcissist, there’s no looking back. Once an empath is done, they’re done.
Now that you know how a narcissist thinks, have you ever had to deal with something like this? Let us know your take on the toxic relationship between an empath and narcissist in the comments down below!
