7. Use Flattery
Trick: Flattery, used in the right way, will always get you where you want to be.
Flattery may seem like a very common thing that most people wanting to impress another person resort to, but there are some conditions you have to keep in mind, if you want to do it right. Most importantly, flattery must look sincere, otherwise it may backfire. Researchers have examined the incentive behind reacting positively to flattery and come up with some important findings.
Simply put, your flattery mustn’t disrupt the concerned person’s cognitive balance, i.e., what you say must align with how they naturally feel and think about themselves. So, when you flatter someone with a high self-esteem, chances are you’ll be thought of as sincere because you’re validating how they naturally feel about themselves. On the other hand, if you flatter a person with low self-esteem the same way as you do in the previous case, then it may do more harm than good because it doesn’t concur with how the person perceives him/herself. Hence, they might like you less. However, this does in no way mean that you degrade a person with poor self-esteem!
6. Mirror People’s Body Language
Trick: Mirror the behavior and body language of the people you want to be more likeable to.
A great way to make yourself more likeable is by using the technique called mirroring. Usually, it comes naturally to many people, but this tactic can also be used consciously to blend in with the people you like. It is called the “chameleon effect”, you try to imitate other people’s speech, behavior and manners in order to fit better into your environment.
Researchers who studied mirroring, found that when someone is imitated in a subtle manner, the chances that this person acts friendly toward the one who copied them is much higher. The second finding by the researchers is even more intriguing- it was found that the person who is mirrored behaves nicer to people in general, even to people not associated with this situation. Mirroring works well because the person whose behavior is copied feels validated. Positive feelings are generated towards the person who validated them, but it also boosts the person’s confidence and makes them feel happier, hence they are more well-disposed towards others in general.
5. Make Tiredness Work In Your Favor
Trick: Approach a person with requests when he/she is tired.
When someone feels tired, it isn’t just their physical body that’s exhausted, but their mental energy is drained out too. Hence, if you make a request when a person is tired, they are more likely to agree with you without thinking too much over it. In most cases, you won’t get a clear response to your request when someone is tired. They’ll probably just say that they’ll do it the next day because they’re too exhausted to make a clear decision at that instant. And most people want to keep the promises they make, so they follow through with what they said the day before; it’s a natural psychological response.