5 Things To Never Expect From A Narcissist

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Things Never Expect From A Narcissist

There are certain things you should never expect from a narcissist because if you do, you would just be wasting your time.

โ€œNarcissistic personality disorder is characterized by extreme vanity, arrogance and self-absorptionโ€ – American Psychiatric Association

Does anyone around you pose themselves as the knower of anything and everything? Do they always use I, me, myselfโ€™ in their conversation? If yes, you would have observed they mostly focus their conversations on themselves. They would even come up with some or other stories that would make them the center of discussion.

These indicators clearly signal you have a narcissist at hand. These people are so self-absorbed that they donโ€™t even care what you have to say on the subject. They have an over-inflated sense of self and because of their big egos, they think they are better than everyone else and deserve to be treated that way.

In fact, it is very difficult to identify a narcissist unless you have spent a great deal of time with them. Sometimes, the awakening is too late and accompanied by an emotional setback.

In whatever way a narcissist may choose to manifest, certain basic traits are common to all of them.

Related: What To Expect If You Decide To Stay With A Narcissist

Here are some of the most common characteristics:

1. They want everyone to behave as per their expectations.
2. They are excessively self-centered.
3. They are absolutely intolerant towards the viewpoint of others.
4. They canโ€™t bear criticism.
5. They have a weak and insecure self.
6. They demand special treatment.
7. They can easily resort to cheating and lying to fulfill their motive.
8. They overspend on super-expensive items to satisfy their ego.
9. They make expensive gifts and generous donations to create a favorable image.

Narcissists are usually able to trap unsuspecting innocent people who believe others easily. The game of manipulation, exploitation, lying, and cheating goes on until the victim goes through a series of eye-openers and decides not to keep up with the demands of the egotistical person in their lives. But, usually, such awakenings are late, painful, and followed by bouts of depression.

If you know well what not to expect from a narcissist you can be on a much better footing to deal with these individuals and protect yourself from harm.

Here are 5 things you should never expect from a narcissist

1. Gratefulness

They are incapable of feeling gratitude. Their self-seeking nature prevents them from giving importance to anyone. Because of their negative attitude, they never mention the things you have done for them. However, they will mention anything they have done for you with flawless accuracy.

They would expect you to be thankful for even their smallest effort but conveniently forget kind gestures and good efforts. The narcissist nature is focused on feeling special and the best way to make it happen is by forcing out special treatment form others. So, never expect a narcissist to be grateful no matter what you do for them.

2. Kindness And Selflessness

A narcissist will never do anything for you just like that. If they do anything for you it is just because they need something from you in return. They always keep a note of the things they have done for others and make sure to claim it when the right time comes.

If a narcissist is being generous to you, understand that it is just a garb they have put on. Selflessness and generosity is absent in their dictionary.

Related: Why The Narcissist Devalues You? 5 Reasons You Should Know

3. Admission Of Guilt

These people think they are perfect and cannot commit mistakes. They are above everyone else and superior in every context. So, you can hardly expect them to accept their mistakes. If anything goes wrong they would be quick to direct it to you. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they would attack you and bully you and turn things around.

They may even create situations, forge stories, and make others believe to project you as the culprit. Know and accept that they will have no guilt or feeling of remorse. They will never apologize because they can never be wrong.

4. Unadulterated Attention

Everything in a narcissistโ€™s life has to be about them. They wonโ€™t do anything that doesnโ€™t serve their purpose. They neither care for people nor do they have time to listen to anybodyโ€™s problems. Unless the conversation is about them or something that can be useful to them they wonโ€™t pay attention to your words.

If at all they listen to you, it is because they need something from you. They would listen to you to know your weaknesses so that they can control your mind and make you do things they want.

5. Kindness And Empathy

This is one thing you should never expect from a narcissist. Narcissists have only one way of looking at everything and that is what they can get from you. They canโ€™t feel empathy and kindness because that would mean moving out of their own world. To be considerate, one has to give importance to others which are impossible for a narcissist.

They wouldnโ€™t help you even if you were lying bleeding on the road unless they know they can get something against help. Even if they show empathy, it will be done to attract attention. They donโ€™t possess self-insight and that is why they have no feeling of remorse.

Related: 15 Things Narcissists Donโ€™t Do

Once, you identify a narcissist, you have to be on your guard. They are masters of manipulation. They can play with your trust and emotions as long as it works for them. Donโ€™t try to change them because they are not capable of seeing their faults. If you try to show them their faults they would have no qualms in labeling you crazy. Because of their lack of self-insight, even therapy canโ€™t do anything for them. The only way to deal with a narcissist is not to have any expectations.


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