“Where there is no struggle, there is no strength” – Oprah
Struggle makes people grow in strength.
Despite the stigma attached to the mentally challenged individuals, they are in reality stronger than what they appear. Ordinary people may not want to believe this, but people with mental disorders are tougher than most of us the so-called ‘normal’ beings.
Mentally ill people appear weak and incapable to those who don’t care to look deeper into them. The society, in general, is dismissive of them. Most people ignore them, not even willing to give them a second look. They are considered incomplete, incapable of leading their lives normally like the rest. They are snubbed and sometimes even hated for being so.
The ongoing mood swings, the urge for self-destruction, the incessant war that they have to win with their minds to remain alive, the hopeless darkness. Undoubtedly mental illness takes a toll on the entire self of a person. Surviving with something so difficult is what these people have to do, and that is what toughens them from inside.
In fact, it would not be wrong to say that people who deal with mental illness have an incredible amount of strength, even though many times they don’t see it.
There is nothing more exhausting than struggling against your own self.
The mere idea that something is within us, is our own enemy is in itself terrifying. Imagine a force inside your body that is constantly trying to put you down, damage your confidence – Imagine living with these intruders in your own house –everyday.
It’s not easy – definitely not. To take care of one’s own self and refusing to give up each day. A weakling would surrender immediately- it’s definitely a battle for the ‘Incredibly Strong.’
1) They Go Through All Of It ALONE – Their Struggles Are Never Really Understood Or Recognized
They have to deal with the illness and, on top of it, the stigma, misconceptions, and ignorance that surrounds it. Their illness is invisible, so people are less compassionate and are often skeptical about its validity. When Lucy gets sick, everyone brings her flowers, but they talk behind your back when you are struggling with your thoughts.
2) Everything They Do Requires Extra Effort
While it isn’t possible to build any kind of efficiency without concerted efforts, mentally ill have to labor far greater to achieve the same things.
Their mind is always crowded with opposing thoughts. This makes reasoning tough and comprehending and implementing even the easiest instructions is a complicated process. They are not able to easily control the flow and direction of information in their brain.
Mundane tasks, household chores, getting up in the morning, making coffee, walking, even smiling at kids and loved ones, requires effort – extra effort.
Anyone who has endured a mental illness knows that especially on low days when you don’t care about yourself or are too exhausted to fight, it’s next to impossible to do even the easiest things. Building up the willpower to actually do these things takes incredible strength, endurance, and determination.
3) They Have To Deal With Not Just The Illness But With People Too
People don’t really understand and they don’t get it. People are simply not interested in how, why and what they feel. Instead of understanding them and their struggles, they choose to be judgmental.
It does get irritating when they, even the close ones, come up with suggestions on to look at the brighter side of things. For example, how a friend with her supernatural willpower gave up gluten or took up Yoga and meditation in order to come out of it. It gets more difficult to deal with not just the problem but in educating everyone around.
Despite their genuine efforts to fight the challenges, the mentally ill have been put through, people like us who don’t even try to appreciate their strength and positivity. They need love as much as each of us does. And since no one is perfect, we all can help each other to build a beautiful world.
A message for everyone:
Mental illness requires an incredible amount of strength and bravery. The sooner everyone — especially those who deal with it the first person — realize this, the sooner stereotypes can fade away, and people can be less afraid to seek help. Try not to be dismissive of them, instead give them the chance to love. Offer your care and understanding. And believe me, even if you have seen them as monsters, as the most pitiful creatures, your attitude will help you gain their forgiveness.
It’s time we accept that mentally ill people aren’t weak. It is only our lack of sensitivity prevents us from seeing that.