There are few people you meet in a lifetime who match your energetic blueprint. Falling in love can happen easily, it’s a hormonal process in your body; sometimes it’s a magical process and sometimes it’s simply lust. But entering a lasting relationship, a connection of the heart, is sometimes a once in a lifetime affair.
You can chase your infatuations, your hormones or the rush of the sensation; you can run for connection when it comes too close but it will not make you happier than choosing for a lasting connection.
The important thing is: Are You mastering your own life?
Are you in ‘ Love’ with yourself? Do you embrace all your dark aspects? Can you look in the mirror and Love yourself, and feel the power within you? This is your soul. Do you pursue your dreams? Do you have self-respect; can you ‘ live’ with yourself?
Have you realized out you are no longer a victim of your life but actually the actor that is directing their own life?
If you hate it, embrace it. Write a new scenario tomorrow. You are not a victim, you make yourself a victim.
Step in the energy of a God. You are NO longer victim of anything in Your life. Re-write the movie. Write down the only things that you do want in your life, and how you see your life shifts when you are at the highest potential of your Being.
You are the writer of the script that is called ‘Your life’. If you have mastered the pain, the depression, the illness and blocks down the road: You are ready for reflection. You are ready for a partnership with someone who understands that self-love comes from within.
A lasting relationship has usually has the following traits:
-You have similar backgrounds, pasts or experiences
-A friendship is the base of your relationship
-You can be completely vulnerable with them
Make a list of the things you really liked in a past relationship, and then one with the things you never want to experience again. Visualize a person who is a mix of the things you bring from your past experiences. Imagine an ex with certain traits who hurt you tremendously. When you meet someone new, it will be a wake-up call when you recognize these traits.
Learn from them and step out of the interaction. You won’t make the same mistake twice.
Many times, people fall in love with a person who resembles their parent, and depending on your relationship with your family, this can be a good or bad thing.
Could you be with this person for longer than a year and would there still be an energetic spark? Is it exiting to see each other every time? Is the relationship developing, and continually growing?
Can this person understand you when you are angry, frustrated or just in a bad mood? Do they love all aspects of you?
It’s good to fight to a degree when it is constructive. If you can hear each other and create a new understanding that leaves both people with more energy than before, that is an amazingly healthy relationship. When you can create more energy for each other through communication, you can always lift each other up.
Remember: The soul ALWAYS trumps the ego. When a very strong energetic soul connection enters your life, it will open up all kinds of new experience, whether you are ready or not.
Last but not least:
A certain kind of tension is good. Many people like to spice it up in their relationships. It can be sexual, intellectual, emotional or any kind of energetic spark!
It’s important to be truthful with one another, a healthy kind of tension keeps you on your toes; like a never-ending adventure.
Text and article written By Leda.
Copyright @ Leda De Zwaan
About the Author
Leda is a writer, speaker, journalist, singer, and Coach of the New Energy. She specializes in Add/HSP, twinsoul- and soulmate relationships, Energetic Clearence, Self-Mastership, Cosmic Marriage, Self-Love, 5D detoxes on every level. Or how about: Creating a New Life, Trauma-Healings, Mission-Coaching, Karma cleansing, Regression-therapy, and Personalized Meditations. She is an entrepreneur to guide towards a new global shift. She also gives counseling & advice to Institutes and Organisations and researches on many subjects to Global Awareness, Univeral Human Rights, Energy-management, Sustainability, Science, Communication, Unification, Health-Awareness and New Ways of thinking.
She tries to re-connect you – and Every part of the chain – with your Inner voice, Our True Unique Essence of Self-Mastery, Wisdom, Knowledge and Self-Love. Towards a New Earth, in the middle of the Shift. So called ‘ New Energy;- As she calls her mission. Her website can be found at: