In a world where appearance is everything and we thrive off sexual and physical attraction, does there come a point where we too heavily discount what else might be truly important? We hear people say so often that “It’s what is on the inside that counts”. But, how often to we get that opportunity to discover it? How often are people denied the opportunity to shine as a result of the judgments and assumptions passed on them?

Think about a man or woman covered in tattoos, or a Muslim woman covered from head to toe for her religion – How many times in their life would you guess that they have been incorrectly judged or put into a stereotypical category society creates?

There have been some unlikely changes in perception as a result of people like the late Steve Jobs, whom in school was bullied and picked on for being a nerd and weird. It has generated a new form of sayings that I imagine many of us will hope to have a positive impact on our judgments, for example, “Be nice to the nerd at school, as they will one day be your boss.”

Imagine for just a minute, online dating with no profile pictures or physical description… it is seems a little far-fetched. A friend of mine has created an online dating website that has somewhat of an interesting twist and that I believe still holds the excitement of cyber world attraction whilst getting to know someone without initial attraction.

I am a firm believer of the importance of physical attraction to create a lasting a sustainable relationship. However, I am also a firm believer that one must get to know another more than by a glance to discover that physical attraction and that there is more involved.

It begs me to ask the question, where does attraction really stem from? As I think back to popular boys and girls in school, the men and women in social groups who attract a lot of attention and even some reality TV series characters, I can’t help but notice the front runners are not always the best looking on ground. So, what makes them so attractive? Is it charisma? Is it attitude and personality? Is it their aura and that little something about them that draws you to them?

We are able to see this because we have allowed them the opportunity and have gotten to know them for who they are.

What are you attracted to? What makes someone attractive in your eyes? If you came across a physically beautiful person, who possessed immense low self-esteem and insecurity – how long would you find them attractive? The same goes with that really good-looking person who is arrogant beyond their right – how long would you find them attractive?

By Samantha K

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