Board: Love Matters

Dear Women: Please Stop Doing This To Your Man

What if I told you that I used to be one of the most emotionally unavailable men out there? What if I told you I was shut down? What if I told you I did everything I could to avoid a fight and absolve myself of responsibility? What if, when we struggled in a relationship, I’d blame you, and find faults with you, so as to not date you anymore, all so I could keep avoiding whatever the hell was going on on my side? Would you still want to date me? Some of you would, for sure. And,...

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Falling in Love and Loving Someone – What’s the difference

How falling in love is different from loving someone Most people don’t know what it means to fall in love and to love someone. The sight of a complete stranger can make your heart beat faster or make you feel a sudden flutter in your stomach. You can’t help but steal a gaze now and then, just to see him or her. You may start thinking of them day and night, and feel great urge to be as close as possible to them. These feelings may be so strong that you may seem to have no control over them....

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Are you in love, or just attached?

Every one of us knows that certain person who jumps from relationship to relationship, and every time, they tell you, “I am in love. As someone who has spent a good part of her adult life single, I could never understand how someone could be “in love” with all those other people. I assumed that it couldn’t be love because it was the fear of being alone. I mean, that’s right. Right? Sort of. You can’t measure love with any real calculations. It’s something you just feel. But what if your feeling isn’t right? What if you are just...

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How to Pick Your Life Partner

To a frustrated single person, life can often feel like this: And at first glance, research seems to back this up, suggesting that married people are on average happier than single people and much happier than divorced people.1 But a closer analysis reveals that if you split up “married people” into two groups based on marriage quality, “people in self-assessed poor marriages are fairly miserable, and much less happy than unmarried people, and people in self-assessed good marriages are even more happy than the literature reports”.2 In other words, here’s what’s happening in reality: Dissatisfied single people should actually consider themselves...

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The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with. It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly. It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has...

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Relationship Regrets: Everything you got to know if you are in or out of a relationship

A while back I posted the following question on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page: “If you could write a note to your Younger Self, what would you say in only 2 words?” And as I was reading the many comments, I kept seeing the same answer given by so many people: “Never marry.” To be honest, I was surprised. I didn’t know that there were so many people out there who regret getting married. But why is that? Why is it that so many people seem to have regrets about marriage? What’s wrong with marriage?  Isn’t getting married supposed to...

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Author of the Week

Athena Staik

Athena Staik, Ph.D