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How Sociopaths Hook Empathetic People – With False Innocence and Appreciation

Sympathy For the Devil Cute. Adorable. Baby. You’ll often hear these adjectives used to describe a psychopath. It’s all part of the charm. You were probably never attracted to arrogance, jerks, and over-confidence. Instead, you’re drawn to the innocent, sympathetic partner—the one who tells you you’re making them happier than anyone else. There is a strange pattern among most survivors: going from “giving them attention” to “needing their attention” in the blink of an eye. How did this transition happen? How did you lose your self-esteem to someone who seemed to have none to begin with? When you first...

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5 Things Sociopaths and Narcissists Say to Make You Feel Crazy

When you hear the word “psychopath”, you might think of Hannibal Lecter or Ted Bundy, but most psychopaths are actually non-violent and non-incarcerated members of society. In fact, there’s a good chance they’ll seem exceptionally altruistic and innocent to the average onlooker. As described in the Psychopath Free book, psychopaths are first and foremost social predators. With no conscience, they’re able to use charm and manipulation to get what they want from others—whether it be families, friendships, relationships, cults, the workplace, or even politics. The bottom line is, they modify their personalities to become exactly the person they think...

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Empathic People Are Natural Targets For Sociopaths – Protect Yourself

The empathy trap: therapists and counselors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients’ recovery – but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call “apaths”. The first UK article on this cruel sport shows how to identify and thus avoid it. People targeted by a sociopath often respond with self-deprecating comments like “I was stupid”, “what was I thinking” of “I should’ve listened to my gut instinct”. But being involved with a sociopath is like being brainwashed. The sociopath’s superficial charm is usually the means by which...

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The Toxic Attraction Between An Empath And A Narcissist

We know that “narcissist” has become a bit of a buzzword recently, and some folks are quick to apply it to an ex-lover or family member or friend. While awareness of this concept is healthy, so is remembering that it is, in a mental health context, a serious condition that shouldn’t be applied to someone you’re mad at because they stole your mirror. ~ Eds.   I am an empath. I discovered I was an empath after I got involved in a very deep and highly destructive relationship with a narcissist. I am writing this article from the perspective of an empath, however, would...

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30 Red Flags of Manipulative People

There are a lot of phenomenal studies on the traits and characteristics of psychopaths. For professional research, check out Cleckley’s criteria or Hare’s psychopathy checklist. A quick Google search ought to do the trick. The red flags in this book are intended to supplement those resources. So what’s different about this list? Well, for one, it’s specifically about relationships. But it’s also about you. Each point requires introspection and self-awareness. Because if you want to spot toxic people, you cannot focus entirely on their behavior—that’s only half the battle. You must also come to recognize the looming red flags...

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Differences Between a Psychopath vs Sociopath

Society has conspired with Hollywood to put two seemingly-sexy psychology terms into our collective consciousness — psychopath and sociopath. Psychopath and sociopath are pop psychology terms for what psychiatry calls an antisocial personality disorder. Today, these two terms are not really well-defined in the psychology research literature. Nonetheless, there are some general differences between these two types of personality types, which we’ll talk about in this article. Both types of personality have a pervasive pattern of disregard for the safety and rights of others. Deceit and manipulation are central features to both types of personality. And contrary to popular...

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Signs You’re Arguing With A Psychopath

Psychopaths make up one percent of the general population and, contrary to popular belief, most of them aren’t serial killers. They’re manipulative people who intentionally cause harm to others without any sense of remorse or responsibility. Psychopaths are social chameleons who can fit perfectly into any situation. They are experts at morphing their identities to get what they want and mirroring others for money, sex, and — most commonly — attention. Because of their ability to idealize others, psychopaths are often perceived as charming, innocent, and fun to unsuspecting onlookers and casual acquaintances. But there is another side to...

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Are You More Of An Empath Or A Narcissist? – MIND GAME

An empath is someone who is very sensitive and connected to other people’s emotions, energy, motivations, and feelings. They take into account the needs and desires of others and sometimes even take on other people’s emotions so that they literally can feel what that person (or animal) is going through. When an empath makes a decision they do what is best for everyone around them, even if it means they may suffer or be negatively impacted. In contrast, a narcissist is someone who is more concerned with their own self rather than anyone else. They put their own needs,...

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10 Things I’ve Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic

Gaslighting is the attempt of one person to overwrite another person’s reality. There’s a good chance that you now know more about gaslighting than most therapists. And that is really unfortunate, because if you have experienced gaslighting, it’s going to be really hard to untangle it yourself. Unfortunately, you may have to, and I want to tell you that you are not alone. Let me share my experience. Here are ten things I wish I’d known at the beginning. Let’s do this together. 1. Gaslighting Doesn’t Have to Be Deliberate About the fifth time I called a close friend...

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Gas Lighting – Something, everyone should know about. Are you a Victim Too ?

For almost my entire life, I felt as though I couldn’t trust my own memory. If something happened that upset me, hurt me, or angered me, my reaction was often met with some variation of “That didn’t happen! I never said that! You’re overreacting!” I would think to myself, “Am I making this up, am I creating this hurt, am I fabricating this anger?” Parents and partners alike would deny my experiences, washing away painful memories as if I had simply painted them for my own amusement.  I started to think that maybe I really was “too sensitive,” that...

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Identifying Emotional Abuse before it Happens.

I want to tell you an important story, and here’s why: not a lot of people will share their versions. It’s scary. Too scary, for many. Like for my hairdresser, whose husband was “the sweetest guy she ever met” at first, yet ended up nearly choking her to death against the kitchen wall. He didn’t spare her—she would have died if her 11-year-old son hadn’t come into the room. Like for a friend of a friend who wasn’t able to leave her abuser until the day he popped a blood vessel in her eye. Like for another friend of...

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AUTHOR OF THE WEEK

Author of the Week

Athena Staik

Athena Staik, Ph.D