7 Things You Need To Know About True Love

Things You Need to know about True Love

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

It’s time we need to change the definition of true love.

Our never-ending quest for affection is one of our primal needs since time immemorial. Over the years the concept of love has evolved alongside us. But true love remains the same. True love is about selflessly giving and being prepared to sacrifice.

Loving someone surpasses external appearance, it outshines their talents and their achievements. True love encompasses the ability to see beyond the surface of the person, it involves being able to accept their soul, however, broken or flawed it is; it the ability to accept their flaws and turn them into virtues, to find opportunities to grow together, to the best of each other’s versions.

A German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche believes that friendship entails the highest form of love because great friends inspire each other and can even push each other to achieve their peak potentials.

Love is born within one’s heart. It starts with loving the self and then loving your partner, your extension.

Love cannot and will not go to those who have an empty heart. True love comes from within. It starts with you. It comes to you abundantly when there is an abundance of it in your heart. It flows through you and it ends with you.

Seek not outside yourself, for all your pain comes simply from a futile search for what you want, insisting where it must be found. ~ from A Course in Miracles

That being said, these are the 7things you need to know about true love.

7 things to know about true love:

1. Self-love is the road to true love

Lasting love comes from the ability to love every part of yourself. Love yourself with all your heart, for who you are and for who you are not. Be generous and gentle to yourself and the whole world will follow. Unless you respect and love yourself you cannot extend that to someone else. People will perceive you the way you perceive yourself.

An external source of love is not ever-lasting. It will perpetually depend on the whims of others. But the love you have for yourself can only increase with time.

Love comes in abundance to those who have it in abundance in their hearts.

The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely. ~ C.G. Jung

2. True love is not about being complete with another

You are already whole and complete and the more you learn to love and accept yourself the more you will know this to be true. You do not need another individual to complete you. Your partner can only appreciate and nurture your completeness.

True love is not about finding your ‘other half’ but rather about sharing your completeness with them fully in order to grow and expand more and more each day.

3. YOU are the love of your life

Life is just a mirror, and what you see out there, you must first see inside of you. ~ Wally Amos

Why look outside yourself for something that is already within you? True love starts with you. Self-love is not something to achieve and then discard once you meet the love of your life.

The love of your life is nobody else but you. How?

Once you learn to love yourself you will never have to wait to be approved or accepted by others. Your own love will suffice.

In you, not outside of you. The love you will receive from outside of yourself will be nothing but a projection of the love that is present within you.

4. True love doesn’t need to be fought over

You often hear people say, “if you really love somebody, you have to fight for that person.” I really don’t think so. If you need to “fight” for someone’s love it means it ain’t worth having.

If love needs to be fought over to achieve then it is not flowing naturally. Do you need to fight for his/her attention? Think again. If it’s so complicated it’s not true love. It might be a strong desire.

“To fight” and “to love” are two opposite things and you can only have one without the other. You can’t have them both.

5. True love is effortless

Are you thinking too much about what your partner feels for you, your relationship and your future together? Probably you are not in love. If it’s true love, you will not be impulsive, you will be patient; you will do anything to be with that person to live a dream you saw together.

True love feels easy. It flows smoothly and everything comes naturally. Where there is true love, there is no need for control, no need for fixing the other person, no need for criticism, judgment, jealousy, blame, or any other toxic behaviors. Love is love and that’s all there is to it.

True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. ~ Jason Jordan

6. True love is not demanding

True love does not demand anything. True love is purely unconditional. It will not demand any change, will not engage in any unrealistic expectations.

True love only give and never ask anything in return. True love is about finding bliss in sacrificing, in compromising for the other person; everything without demanding reciprocation.

7. True love knows no attachment

True love is not based o gains. Love imposes no demands. Love has no interest in holding on to something or someone. Too much attachment, the feelings of possessiveness, the wish to hold on, to cling to, to suffocate the other person does not define true love.

The wise are so totally detached, Pain is for those who are attached. ~ Mohit.K.Misra

This is what true love is all about. Many have heard of it but only a few have really experienced it.

Always remember true love will come to you once you start loving yourself. The attitude of self-love attracts love from other people.

Have you? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below.

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