Being a quiet person can have it’s ups and downs, however, there’s just a certain lifestyle that a majority of us would prefer compared to our extroverted opposites.

Most of the time, we are misunderstood for the things that we hold dear to us as well as the things that we like to do in our spare time.

Of course, it doesn’t necessarily mean that we don’t like doing things that are out of our comfort zone it’s just that we like things to be a certain way before we truly commit.

There are a variety of things that we like to do, but these seven things are probably the most relatable to quiet people that stand out the most, or at least to us.

1. Have To Have A Good Reason

Like we said before, we don’t normally do certain things unless there is a purpose behind it. We rarely commit to things that do not involve our personal input simply because we like to give our best to whatever it is that we want to demonstrate to others.

It’s important to us that we are able to not get in the way of others as well as being precise with what we do and dealing with the consequences afterward. If we truly think there is no reason for us to be there in the first place then we will most likely not show up.

2. Take Your Time

When our friends are too busy or overwhelmed with something going on in their life, we prefer that they take their time instead of rushing to spend time with us.

We do not want them to be constantly looking at their watch instead of actually being engaged with what we are talking about or doing together.

It’s really no trouble at all if you have other things going on at that moment, just let us know when you think you’ll be done and when you are ready to hang out. We probably have other things we could be doing anyways while we wait for them in the meantime.

3. Not Everyone Gets Us…

Not everyone is capable of being our friend so knowing that fact alone should give you a pretty good idea as to what it means for us to be with our close friends.

It’s a huge compliment to our friends that we are willing to hang out with them because we know that if it were anyone else we would most likely be an anxious wreck.

Not everyone is capable of understanding how we operate so it’s pretty amazing that you’re the kind of person we like to spend our time with. Sure, that may seem like an over-exaggeration, however, it’s more than true when we are out with the people we consider to be our closest friends.

4. Natural Observers

One of the best things that every single quiet person is good at is being an observer. This doesn’t mean that we don’t like to not give our input, but more like we look for the right opportunity to speak our minds.

If you plan on getting to know a quiet person a little bit more than you do now, then expect them to be thoroughly observing every single thing that you say and do the entire time you are with them.

This is how we are able to understand people as well as situations a lot better than we already do.Yes, it’s easy to observe and that’s how we like it too.

5. Like Going Out But…

Quiet people definitely love going out to the bar every now and then but would rather much prefer staying at home having a couple of porch beers or cracking open a new bottle of wine we’ve been looking forward too.

Bars are nice, don’t get us wrong, however, it can prove to be a little too loud sometimes when we are trying to talk to our friends and we aren’t able to understand anything that the other person is saying simply because of how loud the music is or how loud others at the bar might be.

It’s nothing personal, we do love going out, but staying in and doing the same things can give us a lot of overall joy.

6. Prefer A Lot Of Alone Time

This is where a lot of people misunderstand us when it comes to having our alone time. Don’t worry, prefer a LOT of alone time and not because we don’t like going out in public as much.

We like being able to process everything that has happened to us throughout the day since we are constantly overthinking just about…


We need a lot of alone time so that we are able to decompress, calm our thoughts, and allowing for more information intake for the following days. We also like to have our space to ourselves so that we are able to do the things we like to do in our free time that we would otherwise not get the chance to do.

7. Surface Appearances Mean Nothing

You really don’t have to worry about getting dressed up, getting your hair done, or anything that involves you looking absolutely amazing. Quiet people don’t really care for the surface appearance of the people that we actually like.

We already like you for you there is no need for dressing up for us. This is also true for when you look your worst as well. We still think you’re an amazing human being that we absolutely love spending time with no matter what you look like!

You could be puking your guts out for all we care, we are still going to stand by your side and probably even hold your hair back while you vomit.

Hopefully, this has given you a better idea as to what it means being in the shoes of a quiet individual.

H/t – Higher Perspectives
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